Be strong. But, seek help if you are depressed.

Isn’t this so true?

When I was depressed, I didn’t realize that I was going through much more than other sad people were going through.

My depression reached such a stage that I didn’t want to live anymore.

That’s when I went for therapy.

At last when I went for therapy and got better, I realized how much I had put up with and that I was indeed really strong.

If I had only taken help a little earlier, I wouldn’t have been so broken.

But I never realized that I needed help. I thought I will get through it on my own.

That’s the reason I’ve started this blog, to help those who are in early (and all) stages of depression, to make them realize that they should take care of themselves now itself.

We have a whole reserve of inner strength. We only have to learn how to use it.

We are stronger than our worst struggles, but there is also no harm in asking for help.

If you are depressed, do seek help today itself.

You are special and a precious human being.


Thank you for reading. ❤
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How to be happy on your own.

Many people have asked me how they can make friends?

They say they are empty and feel very lonely, having nobody to share their joys and sorrows.

My answer to them is very simple : YOU CAN BE HAPPY EVEN WITHOUT FRIENDS.
Ways to be happy without friends :

1) Accept yourself the way you are. Love yourself, with all your qualities and quirks.

2) Find some way to give back to society. In this way you find meaning in life. (It can be volunteering at an orphanage, sponsoring a child’s education or starting an Instagram channel to help others.)

3) Concentrate on living your life. Don’t spend your time trying to find friends, if they are meant to be in your life, they’ll automatically become part of it.
In the end, we all have to be able to make ourselves happy.

Other people are busy trying to make themselves happy, so how will they make you happy?

Your happiness should not be dependent on someone else.

Become a little selfish where your own happiness is concerned.

Be kind to others, but also be kind to yourself.

Remember, you are awesome, just the way you are.

Be with people who make you realize how awesome you are. Don’t be with those who put you down and critisize you.

Don’t forget, you are amazing, dear friend! ❤❤❤❤

Thank you for reading! ❤

How to influence others.

Part 1 : Chapter 3 of the book “How to win friends and influence people”

This chapter speaks about how we can influence others.

The author, Dave Carnegie, says that the only way to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.

Before you try to persuade someone to do something, ask yourself : ‘How can I make this person want to do it?

This ‘influencing’ should not be construed as ‘manipulating’. It should benefit both parties from the negotiation.

Owen D. Young says :

“People who can put themselves in the place of other people, who can understand the workings of their minds, need never worry about what the future has in store for them”

Carnegie goes on to explain that ‘when we have a brilliant idea, instead of making others think it is ours, why not let them cook and stir the idea themselves.’

So, it is really easy to get a person to agree to something if we have the ability to convince them that we are thinking about the prospect from their point of view.

Harry A. Overstreet says :

“First, arouse in the other person an eager want. He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way.”

Thank you for reading! ❤

Appreciate others.

Part 1 : Chapter 2 of the book “How to win friends and influence people”

Chapter 2 speaks about how important appreciation is.

It says that there is only one way to get people to do something, and that is to give them what they want. What people usually crave for is appreciation.

The best way to develop the best in a person is through appreciation and encouragement.

The books says that nothing else kills the ambitions of a person as critisicm does.

Showing “sincere appreciation” can change a person’s life.

Now this chapter also stresses upon the fact that it should be genuine appreciation, and not just flattery.

The difference between appreciation and flattery is that the former is sincere and the latter is not.

Whether it is a senior praising a new recruit, or a parent praising his/her child, nothing pleases and encourages a person more than appreciation does.

It speaks about the fact that honest appreciation got results where criticism and ridicule failed.

95% of the time we are thinking about ourselves. Let us stop thinking about ourselves for a change, and let’s try and think about the other person’s good points. Let’s appreciate people more and criticize them less.

As the Author says,

“Try leaving a friendly trail of little sparks of gratitude on your daily trips.”

What incredible advice!

Thank you for reading! ❤

You failed? So what?

Failure is a very negative word. It should never be used to address a person.

When a student fails a grade in school the teachers used to call him/her “a failure”. How can you be so cruel and call someone a failure? That is downright cruel!

As you grow older you realize that failure is something each of us have to deal with, be it in business, in an exam or in life in general.

Failure teaches us so much. It makes us realize how strong we are. It makes us cope with our sadness because we know that there is no other option than to stand up each time we’ve fallen.

Giving up is easy. But you have already put in so much of hard work to reach where you are now.

Strive harder. Work your a** off. Struggle. Hustle. And don’t worry there will be a light at the end of the tunnel.

As the saying goes,

“You will never see the light at the end of the tunnel if you don’t walk through the darkness.”

Thank you! ❤

Don’t criticize others.

Part 1 : Chapter 1 of the book “How to win friends and influence people” 

I started reading this amazing book yesterday.

The first chapter speaks about how people never own up to their mistakes, they always feel they are right.

Whether it is a criminal or a politician, they always have a reason to justify their actions.

So, this chapter’s lesson is to NEVER CRITICIZE ANYONE. Criticism is not very effective because it gives the other person a reason to justify what they have done wrong.

Keep reading my blog for gists about the other chapters of the book.

Do read the book if you get a chance, it will change your life. ❤

Keep persevering.

Cry if you must, scream if you must, take a break to rewire your mind, but don’t ever give up.

Sometimes we give up right before we are destined to achieve success.

Remember, some of the greatest people faced a string of failures, but they persevered and changed the world.

Be one of them. Change the world for the better! ❤❤❤❤

Don’t Give Up.

Sometimes we go through something so hard to accept, something so unfair, something that we do not have the willpower to fight.

I cried thrice because of something that happened today. It was tough to accept. But I guess that’s life.

God has plans for us which are greater than our own.

Giving up has crossed my mind so many times today. Afterall I’m human.

But I know I’m stronger than that. I know that I’m feeling this way only because I’m feeling very pessimistic due to the failure I’ve faced. But I also know that I’ve to pick myself up now that I’ve fallen.

People can help lift me up, but I have to remain upright on my own. That’s the same way motivation works. I can motivate you, advise you, but you will have to work after that. You will have to put in efforts.

All I can say right now is that I’ve been through failure, I know how easy it is to say that you don’t want to pursue something, but don’t let failure ruin your life.

Be strong, you are your main motivator. All we can do is submit ourselves to God and work really hard.

You are special, don’t let the word “failure” ever make you feel otherwise.


Stop Body Shaming.

​Recently I’ve come across so many people who judge others based on how they look.

I’ve been called fat by a random person on Instagram who has never seen me in person.

Why judge a person based on looks?

I maybe fat, I maybe thin, I maybe obese, I may be underweight, but that doesn’t define who I am!

My outer appearance should not be a criteria for making friends, or dating someone.

People should look beyond appearance and accept a person for who they are.

Love yourself no matter how you look!

It is your heart and character that matters in the end.

You maybe beautiful/handsome, but if you have a nasty character nobody will want to be your friend or date you.

You may not be good looking, but if you have a lovely, sweet and caring character everyone would want to be your friend or date you.

Don’t let other people’s opinions define who you are.

Write your own story, write your own rules.

Be supportive of other’s and help those in need.

If you feel someone is being bullied, help them, don’t stay quiet.

God has crafted you, so be proud of yourself, you are a work of art.

Stop body shaming.

Let’s all be body positive! ❤❤❤❤