Importance of Appreciation.

All of us, being humans, crave attention and appreciation.

If someone does a good deed, showing a little appreciation goes a long way.

Some people work day and night, with little or no appreciation shown to them. This makes them depressed and they slowly lose interest in the work they do.

Showing a little appreciation did not hurt anyone. However, this can exist only in no jealousy zones.

Have you ever observed that those who’s work is truly appreciated, end up working more productively and it helps maintain a healthy work-life balance.

It is much wiser to say a few kinds words of appreciation to someone when they are living, rather than writing an essay for them when they’re no more.

Sometimes people do not show appreciation towards other’s due to the following traits :

1) Jealousy

2) Ignorance

3) Callousness

Ways we can appreciate others around us :

1) Make something for them.

2) Write a thank you note.

3) Compliment / Praise them

4) Show signs of affection

5) Do something thoughtful

6) Get a small gift

Whether you are having a great day or a horrible one, an attitude of gratitude can lift your spirits and change your mood, and sometimes the mood of those around you too.

Alan Cohen said, “Appreciation is the highest form of prayer, for it acknowledges the presence of good wherever you shine the light of your thankful thoughts”.

So, starting today, let’s make a conscious effort to appreciate those around us and also appreciate all the things we have in our lives.

Let us be more grateful in order to be more happy.

Thank you for reading! ❤

Photo credits to the awesome photographer Arun Nair.

What is mindfulness?

• Mindfulness is the psychological process of bringing one’s attention to experiences occurring in the present moment.

• In other words, it is living in the present. Not worrying about the past or future.

• Mindfulness can be developed through meditation and other practices.

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Some tips on how you can become more mindful :

1) Live in the present, do not dwell in the past or think about the future.

2) Learn to accept the fact that some things cannot be controlled by us and that there is only so much that we can do.

3) Stop analysing situations, that way you do not think of an imaginary outcome.

4) Be more grateful. That will make you more happy.

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What are the benefits of being mindful?

1) Boosts energy levels.

2) Reduces stress and anxiety.

3) Better sleep.

4) Improves mood and happiness.

5) Improves concentration.

6) Improves digestion.

7) Helps with digestive problems.

8) Improves heart function.

9) Improves self-esteem.

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Tips on how to start mindfulness meditation :

> Sit in a quiet place.

> Close your eyes.

> Concentrate on your breathing.

> Count from 1 on inhale, 2 on exhale, and so on till 10.

> Continue this practice for 5-10mins per day.

> Concentrating on your breath will make you stop thinking about other things.

> Meditating is something which can be improved with practice.

> Mindfulness Meditation helps you concentrate more on the present. It does not force you to stop thinking, but it eases the mind to naturally stop thinking and enjoy the present.

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My personal experience :

When I was young I had gone for a meditation class where I was told “stop thinking”. But that is not very simple, because it is at that moment itself that all thoughts come flooding in our minds. That’s when I realized that meditation is not my cup of tea.

Recently I downloaded the ‘Headspace’ and ‘Calm’ apps. I never knew meditation could be so interesting. It took only 10 mins per day to change my mood completely. I definitely recommend everyone to try mindfulness meditation. It will change your life.

Thank you for reading! ❤

Do you have low self-esteem?

• Some of the symptoms of having low self-esteem are :

>Depression

>Discouragement

>Fear and Anxiety (of making a mistake, being rejected, looking foolish or inadequate)

>Hypersensitivity.

>Mixed Emotions.

>Shutdown Emotionally.

>Self-Esteem Attacks

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• Let’s look at the statistics :

> 7 out of 10 girls have self-esteem issues.

> 92% of teenage girls want to change something about their looks.

> 40% of teenage boys want to change something about their bodies.

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• Some of the low self-esteem engagement activities include :

> Drinking

> Smoking

> Drug abuse

> Cutting

> Bullying

> Eating disorders

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• Some ways to help improve your self-esteem are as below :

1) Meditate.

2) Stop comparing yourself to others.

3) Realize how wonderful you are and that you are amazing just the way you are.

4) Keep a compliment jar.

5) Start living in the present.

6) Realize that if someone else was in your place, you wouldn’t treat them the way you are treating yourself.

7) Surround yourself with positive, encouraging people.

8) Keep away from negative people and negative situations.

9) Get to know the real you.

10) Do things that make you happy, but make sure you don’t hurt anyone by doing so.

11) Share your problems with your close ones.

12) Go to a therapist who will give you medication to ease your depression and anxiety.

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• You are a wonderful person.

I may not know you, but I know that you are unique and special just the way you are.

• Have faith in yourself.

• If you believe in God, then pray that you get the confidence to hold your head high and to show the world how wonderful you are.

Thank you for reading. ❤

Suicide? Why?!?!

This is a line from the song “Time of my life – NeYo ft. Pitbull”

Today the “Blue Whale suicide game” was on the news. Innocent children are playing such games and killing themselves.

We need to stop children from accessing such games.

We need to be there for people who are depressed and suicidal. Please seek help!

Ending your life is not an option.

You are special and no matter how insignificant you feel you are, speak to your parents, family and friends and you will realize how important you are to them.

Depression is very common nowadays and it is not something to be ashamed of.

I was depressed and I was suicidal once because of what I was going through, and God saved me. I then went to a neuropsychiatrist, who gave me medication and therapy to get out of that state.

There is no harm in seeking help. It makes you stronger, not weaker.

Please don’t fall prey to suicide games, cutting or anything of the sort.

Be brave, the bad days don’t last forever.

There is always someone who can help you, you just need to ask them.

Stop suicide. Save your precious life.

Thank you for reading! ❤

How I got over depression.

I’m writing this post as part of my mission to create awareness amongst people regarding depression.

(I am not a doctor or a therapist. I’m just someone who has been through depression and wants to save others from it’s clutches.)

God and my doctor saved me.

It’s been more than a year since I’ve been going for therapy.

I have changed completely. I have become a happier person.

 I went to a neuropsychiatrist who gave me medication to lessen my anxiety and depression.

People all around the world have this strange misconception that the medicines given for depression have an affect on your health in the long-run.

That is completely wrong. The medicines which I took were mild and were effective in calming me down and I was on a prescription for a short period of time (a little over a year) and I will soon get off medicines.

It is of utmost importance to seek medical help incase you or your loved ones are depressed.

Ignoring the issue or even saying that you can cope with it, will make things even tougher to handle.

Stop looking at depression and mental health issues as a deterrent to your success. 

You should realize that adequate help is available for the same, and seeking help with change your life and make you so much calmer.

Seeking help does not make you weak. It makes you stronger.

Just like we go to doctors for our physical illnesses, we should seek medical help for our mental illnesses.

Make sure you go to a good doctor, who is genuinely good and helpful.

Look at the change in me. From being someone who didn’t want to live, I’ve become someone who is motivating others and lending a helping hand to others with depression.

I’m a live example to show that therapy and medication for depression truly works.

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Thank you for reading! ❤

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For more motivation, follow my YouTube channel : Ellen De Souza

And my Instagram page : getmotivated.with.ellen

Hustle. But, rest as well.

All I’ve heard from big entrepreneurs is “Hustle, Hustle, Hustle”.

I tried sleeping for 3 hours last night instead of my usual 8 hours, and I was completely drained at work, I was restless, I was irritated the whole day and overall it wasn’t a really pleasant experience.

So, my advice to all the hustlers out there is – Hustle, but do rest as well.

The human body needs rest to function properly.

Scientists and doctors are not fools to say that humans require a minimum of 6 to 8 hours sleep.

If you can work well on less sleep, then hat’s off to you. But to the other normal people (like me) all I have to say is, don’t push yourself too much.

Don’t get burnt out when you’re still so young. You have your entire life ahead of you.

Be passionate about your work, but learn to take care of your health as well.

Stay awesome and take care of yourself! ❤❤❤❤

Thanks for reading! ❤

Be strong. But, seek help if you are depressed.

Isn’t this so true?

When I was depressed, I didn’t realize that I was going through much more than other sad people were going through.

My depression reached such a stage that I didn’t want to live anymore.

That’s when I went for therapy.

At last when I went for therapy and got better, I realized how much I had put up with and that I was indeed really strong.

If I had only taken help a little earlier, I wouldn’t have been so broken.

But I never realized that I needed help. I thought I will get through it on my own.

That’s the reason I’ve started this blog, to help those who are in early (and all) stages of depression, to make them realize that they should take care of themselves now itself.

We have a whole reserve of inner strength. We only have to learn how to use it.

We are stronger than our worst struggles, but there is also no harm in asking for help.

If you are depressed, do seek help today itself.

You are special and a precious human being.

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Thank you for reading. ❤
P.S. : If you are on Instagram, do follow my Motivational page – Get Motivated With Ellen (getmotivated.with.ellen)

How to be happy on your own.

Many people have asked me how they can make friends?

They say they are empty and feel very lonely, having nobody to share their joys and sorrows.

My answer to them is very simple : YOU CAN BE HAPPY EVEN WITHOUT FRIENDS.
Ways to be happy without friends :

1) Accept yourself the way you are. Love yourself, with all your qualities and quirks.

2) Find some way to give back to society. In this way you find meaning in life. (It can be volunteering at an orphanage, sponsoring a child’s education or starting an Instagram channel to help others.)

3) Concentrate on living your life. Don’t spend your time trying to find friends, if they are meant to be in your life, they’ll automatically become part of it.
In the end, we all have to be able to make ourselves happy.

Other people are busy trying to make themselves happy, so how will they make you happy?

Your happiness should not be dependent on someone else.

Become a little selfish where your own happiness is concerned.

Be kind to others, but also be kind to yourself.

Remember, you are awesome, just the way you are.

Be with people who make you realize how awesome you are. Don’t be with those who put you down and critisize you.

Don’t forget, you are amazing, dear friend! ❤❤❤❤

Thank you for reading! ❤

You failed? So what?

Failure is a very negative word. It should never be used to address a person.

When a student fails a grade in school the teachers used to call him/her “a failure”. How can you be so cruel and call someone a failure? That is downright cruel!

As you grow older you realize that failure is something each of us have to deal with, be it in business, in an exam or in life in general.

Failure teaches us so much. It makes us realize how strong we are. It makes us cope with our sadness because we know that there is no other option than to stand up each time we’ve fallen.

Giving up is easy. But you have already put in so much of hard work to reach where you are now.

Strive harder. Work your a** off. Struggle. Hustle. And don’t worry there will be a light at the end of the tunnel.

As the saying goes,

“You will never see the light at the end of the tunnel if you don’t walk through the darkness.”

Thank you! ❤

Keep persevering.

Cry if you must, scream if you must, take a break to rewire your mind, but don’t ever give up.

Sometimes we give up right before we are destined to achieve success.

Remember, some of the greatest people faced a string of failures, but they persevered and changed the world.

Be one of them. Change the world for the better! ❤❤❤❤