Part 2 : Chapter 2 of the book “How to win friends and influence people”
They say that the expression one wears on one’s face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one’s back.
The author speaks about the importance of a smile.
As actions speak louder than words, a smile says that you are glad to meet a person. That is why dogs make such a hit. So do babies. They get so glad to see us, that we get glad to see them too.
However, the author says that your smile should be genuine. An insincere smile or grin won’t fool anybody. Everyone knows that it is mechanical and they resent it.
Professor James V. McConnell says,
‘People who smile tend to manage, teach and sell more effectively, and to raise happier children. There’s far more information in a smile than in a frown. That’s why encouragement is a much more effective teaching advice than punishment’
The effect of a smile is powerful, even when it is unseen. If a person smiles while talking on the telephone, his/her smile comes through in their voice.
If you want people to have a good time meeting you, you have to make sure that you have a good time meeting people.
If you don’t feel like smiling what do you do? The author suggests that you should force yourself to smile. Act as if you were already happy, and that will tend to make you happy.
William James says,
‘Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feelings go together; by regulating the action we can indirectly regulate the feeling.’
Everyone in this world wants to be happy – and one sure way to be happy is to control your thoughts.
The author emphasises that happiness does not depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.
There is an ancient Chinese proverb that goes like this :
‘A man without a smiling face must not open a shop.’
Your smile is a messenger of your good will. Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it.
As the famous essayist and publisher Elbert Hubbard says,
‘Greet your friends with a smile, and put soul into every handshake. Do not fear being misunderstood and do not waste a minute thinking about your enemies’
We bother so much about what other’s think about us, that we rarely feel happy with ourselves.
Let us strive to understand our worth, and be happier people, who genuinely smile at the world.
Thank you for reading! ❤